The problem with sisters

[Oldie Black Witch]

You will in 10 years or so.  

I didn't think I would either, but things look different in retrospect.

[Gemm: Rock & Roll Star; Born to Rock]

I found EUOL's comment to be rather humorous. He was at one point 29; until he ran into the next race.

Anywho, my first thought on this when I saw it was, "If you've got a hot sister, everyone you know (usually only just the male side of your friends) will want to know her. Ergo a current situation of mine." =P

But that does seem to be a bit scewed. That doesn't seem right to me. My mom was...20 and my dad was 30 when they got married. All because of me.

Either way, awkward.

[MsFish]

Aww, come on Archon.  No one's trying to discredit you, it's just a fact that pretty much everyone looks back at their teenage years and says, "I was so stupid."  

Course, I'm still saying that about last year, and next year I'll probably say that about this year.  So maybe we don't ever learn, we just think we do.  

What does she see in this guy?  Excellent question.  I asked her that myself a couple nights ago, and she didn't really answer me.  What I think it is, though, is that my sister's pretty mature, and really smart.  She isn't into the high school drama.  I think she likes being with a guy who can have an intelligent conversation, and that's hard to come by in highschool.  (Don't jump all over me Archon, I know there are exceptions.)

Thing is though, all she does is complain about his total inability to commit to her.  I'm really not sure why she puts up with it.  Part of it's probably a physical thing.  

[Archon]

I am not going to jump on you, just as long as you know that there are exceptions. Anyway, if you admit that she is intelligent and not blinded by typical high school drama, and you have talked to her about it, that is about the extent of your power.

As for the intelligent conversation, I will agree with you for the most part. That is one of the reasons that I enjoy being part of this board, it gives me a chance to get away from the typical high school idiocy that is supposed to count as conversation. I am lucky though, I have a good group of friends that are on the same page as me. It is all in who you choose to be friends with.

[fuzzyoctopus]

And getting out of high school doesn't even protect you from it.  My workplace is horrifyingly like a bad high school experience at times.

Age doesn't necessarily mean maturity and maturity doesn't necessarily mean age.

But I still think Fish's sister will look back on this in a few years and *facepalm*.

[MsFish]

Yeah, and I really hope that's all the scars she leaves it with.  

ARG!

But hey, we're going out of town tomorrow for five whole days.  She says she's going to use the distance to rethink things.  However, she has a cellphone, so distance really isn't as distant as it could be.  

And she's decided that for New Years she wants to set me up with her boyfriend's roommate.  Heaven help me.  

[Archon]

Hey Fish, there is a magic word that I think could solve that problem very nicely. "No!" is the word you are looking for.

[The Holy Saint, Grand High Poobah, Master of Monkeys, Ehlers]

hrm... my sister-in-law is in the same situation. Only she's 25 and the guy's 40. I dunno. Say all you want about spring-fall relationships, ... it's workable, but that big a difference means a lot, even for "mature" people. A decade and a half of experience can make a LOT of difference at any age. You're at different stages of life.

However, before anyone gets on my case for that, note that my sister married one of my friends who was 7 years older than her, and I didn't have a problem with that,... well, not one I couldn't get over soon into the relationship.

I find it inappropriate that this guy is behaving this way, and I would tell my sister in no uncertain terms if she were in that. The thing that sets off the biggest alarms in my mind is the complaint about commitment. What the frickin hell is a 29 year old doing trying to date a 17 year old that he won't commit to? That's the scariest thing. Sounds like SHE'S more mature than HE is. Combine that with the fact that he's nearly 30, it makes me think he'll NEVER mature and that there will be major problems even if he does eventually commit.

[Mad Dr Jeffe]

One word for the guy... creeptastic...

[Spriggan]

I agree with Jeffe, it's creepy.  In Japan it's very common for a 13 year old to date someone 18-20 years old.  And frankly that's creepy, when I tried to explain the some Japanese friends why it was they just drew blank expressions and said, more or less, "it's common" and that was their justification for it.  

Ms. Fish's sister's situation is the same, but for different reasons.  Mostly becasue:

1) People are never as mature as they think they are, and usely the ones that like the espout how mature they are usealy aren't very.

2) The fact the guy won't commit is just proof that the guy is only dateing her is becsaue of how young she is and probaly brags about it to friends.

Heck an ex-coworker of mine dated a guy 12 years older then her when she was in highschool, the guy also had 2 kids and had never been married, because of "how mature" he was and that he was a "nice" guy.  When I basicaly said that was bull, any guy that has his past history with women isn't mature in any way, she admitted one of the reason she dated him was becaue it made her frieds jelious and her parents mad.

[Mad Dr Jeffe]

/me blinks

Someone agreeing with me...

Where did I put that heart medication?

I wouldnt trust his motives. In addition, I think that 17-29 marrige is illegal without parental consent. In most states anyway.

[fuzzyoctopus]

And just be glad you don't live in Canada, where the age of consent is 14.  Or, maybe you should tell boyfriend that.  If he goes to Canada, he can legally hook up with girls 14 and up and leave your sister alone!

[The Holy Saint, Grand High Poobah, Master of Monkeys, Ehlers]

*shudders*

[fuzzyoctopus]

Um.   Can he say that here?

[Entsuropi]

Yeah, I was wondering if he meant what he sounded like he meant, heheh.