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Forget sex. Let's talk romance.
« on: January 27, 2009, 09:36:25 PM »
Ryanjm points out the minimal role of sex/sexuality in the Mistborn series here: http://www.timewastersguide.com/forum/index.php?topic=6410.0. 

Whether or not you like Mistborn that way, and whether or not you think characters are more realistic when their attractions are dwelt on more, I think you could make a case for the Vin/Elend romance as less successful than Raoden/Sarene or Susebron/Siri.

Maybe it's just me.  But Raoden/Sarene--ah! the tension was great, that perfect romantic suspense of knowing two people are meant for each other, have to get together, but have impossible obstacles in front of them.  Seriously great romance.  And the Susebron/Siri romance was equally if not more compelling for me, particularly because I didn't expect it from the start.  (Not Vasher/Vivenna though, at least not in the version I read.  When they ended up together, I felt a let down and a huh?  I needed more buildup to believe and be happy for them.)

But Vin/Elend?  I don't know, something about it doesn't work as well for me as the other ones. [disclaimer: I loved the series, it kept me up late reading, I'm not dissing the books, just analyzing a bit.] Did anyone else feel that way? I'm trying to figure out why.  For me, it's not the absence of sex; in fact, I think too many sexual references destroy the kind of romantic tension I'm referring to.  Maybe it's the way their relationship is kind of strung between two novels; you think they end up together after the first one, but Vin's not really committed, but the "should I marry Elend or not" is not really the focus of Book 2, or at least not as much as I would have liked.

What do you think?  Which romance do you find most successful, and why?
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Re: Forget sex. Let's talk romance.
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2009, 10:34:53 PM »
Romantic tension makes for interesting novels, but not necessarily good romance. There was not romantic tension between Elend and Vin because they were in love with each other and knew it and each knew the other loved them. Their problems which stood in the way of their relationship were not how they felt about each other but about how each felt about him or herself. So while it may not make for compelling romantic fiction, it's not at all unrealistic and doesn't mean their love wasn't legitimate.
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« Reply #2 on: January 28, 2009, 12:54:13 AM »
I completely agree with you about Raoden/Sarene. That was perfect. Vin/Elend? I can see your point. But it really wasn't all that much of a subplot, and I liked it that way. When Zane was introduced to complete the "romantic triangle" and give Elend some competition, I was like oh brother. I don't know if that was Brandon's intention or not to try to bring out the romantic subplot, but it didn't work for me.
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Re: Forget sex. Let's talk romance.
« Reply #3 on: January 28, 2009, 03:30:02 AM »
I agree that Raoden/Sarene had the best romance. I'd love to see even more, but, hey, Brandon doesn't write romance novels.

When Zane was introduced to complete the "romantic triangle" and give Elend some competition, I was like oh brother. I don't know if that was Brandon's intention or not to try to bring out the romantic subplot, but it didn't work for me.

It was my impression that it was not so much that she was choosing between the two men as it was choosing between the two different lifestyles. It didn't seem like she was romantically interested in Zane, only "professionally".

(Not Vasher/Vivenna though, at least not in the version I read.  When they ended up together, I felt a let down and a huh?  I needed more buildup to believe and be happy for them.)

Am I missing something here? I thought they went off together in the end for non-romantic reasons. (basically, Viv looking for a different life) Anyone else?
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« Reply #4 on: January 28, 2009, 05:11:55 AM »
I got the impression they were meant to be a couple, but weren't quite there yet. Brandon said their story will continue in the second book, whereas the main part of Siri/Susebron's story is done.
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« Reply #5 on: January 28, 2009, 05:23:40 AM »
Ookla, I think that where Book 2 threw me off is the way it pretended that tension existed when it didn't.  The Zane subplot, Vin's dithering over whether she was going to get married.  And I agree that the lack of romantic tension doesn't de-legitimize love.  I just didn't think the in-between stage of their relationship portrayed in Book 2 was that successful.  Have a DTR already ;).  And if I'm thinking "have a DTR already" instead of enjoying and anticipating what's going to happen, then it doesn't work as well for me.

Reaves, amen about Zane.

Melbatoast, "Brandon doesn't write romance novels."  True enough.  But it's pretty hard to pull off a romance that doesn't make me roll my eyes.  I love a good romance, but I also have a low tolerance for cheese, so I'm picky. 

So I guess while he doesn't write genre romance, I would hope he always sticks a good romance someplace in his books, because he does them very well.
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« Reply #6 on: January 28, 2009, 06:07:39 AM »
Personally, I'm the type of guy that likes "No Guts, No Glory" stories, but i do think that romance can make any story MUCH better. While I wish there had been a tad more in the Elend/Vin department, I dont think much more could have been done without it feeling tacked on. Lets face it, we all knew they were gonna get together from the first ball.

This is why Breeze's tension, Spook's (to a degree) and especially Sazed's tension were so important in the story. I mean, the romantic tension and then the tragedy for Sazed in book 2 set up arguably the most important parts of book 3.  Romantic tension and the tragedy that results from it formed the basis for Kel's life in book 1. I'd say the novels are in good shape considering the themes and what was at stake.
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« Reply #7 on: January 28, 2009, 06:23:23 AM »
I loved the Sazed and Kelsier tension; Breeze... meh, I don't know, it was a nice way to lighten Book 3, I think, and that was definitely needed, but the romance itself didn't really grab me.  I didn't have enough invested in them.  And that's okay; they are supporting characters. 

But Sazed, yes, that was nicely done.  Really heart-wrending.
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« Reply #8 on: January 28, 2009, 10:23:35 PM »
I actually feel that the Vin/Elend relationship is much more true-to-life than the others.  Maybe that's why people don't find it that interesting.  When you study people with relationship issues, most of the time it is a self-esteem issue from one or both parties.  Vin did not believe she deserved Elend, which is frustrating from a reader's perspective.  Relationships are destroyed every day for much more trivial things than impending doom, overthrowing a evil dictator, and having the fate of the entire world on your shoulders.  If that's not love, then nothing is.
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« Reply #9 on: February 01, 2009, 09:31:38 AM »
I liked the Raoden/Sarene romance at the beginning, but in the end it went way too quickly for my taste. First Sarene distrusted him and while she was in Elantris her feelings for him appear to have changed radically but we get no POV of hers until she gets out and then she`s much too preoccupied with Hrathen, Teod`s conversion and the ensuing problems to reflect on her feelings for Raoden. As reader, I can see the two fit together well, but I don`t get when they realize it, too. I really missed interaction between the two.

Looking back, I think I may be hijacking this thread since it was mainly meant for the Vin/Elend relationship - sorry. If you think this post is inappropriate here, just ignore it :)
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« Reply #10 on: February 01, 2009, 06:18:34 PM »
When Zane was introduced to complete the "romantic triangle" and give Elend some competition, I was like oh brother. I don't know if that was Brandon's intention or not to try to bring out the romantic subplot, but it didn't work for me.

Yeah. It kinda threw me for a loop when Zane expected Vin to go away with him, and Vin actually considered it. They never even spoke to each other beyond "why do you serve them?" and "you're not like them, you're different."  Was that supposed to be Zane courting Vin? Because they never really said anything beyond that and yet Vin was still thinking "hmm, I don't know this guy, but he fights well, so maybe I should leave my fiance for him."   ???  I was glad when Vin got over this period of indecision and started acting more rationally.

I think Vin and Elend's whole relationship was left a little undeveloped.  Yes, there was an ongoing crises, but whenever they were together, it was rare that they showed any type of affection.  I think that ties really closely with the lack of sexuality, because I associate sexuality and romance (some of it anyway) with touching. No massaging away the tension, no light kisses when they were together, just discussing their problems and the business that needed to be done.  An example: The very first chapter in HoA where Vin and Elend are alone together, Elend wakes up from a nap to find Vin already washed and dressed.  Elend thinks that Vin is pushing herself too hard and is concerned about her (which shows he cares about her, but it could be in the same way you care about a friend or relative).  Then they discuss a problem and depart. 

If you wanted to add a little romance to the scene, which would have shown that they had a deeper affection for each other, you could have had Elend wake up while Vin is still dressing, and he appreciates how all the running around and fighting has strengthened her body and made her lean and toned.  Then you could have Vin see Elend wake up and she smiles and walks over to ask how he feels now that he's getting used to being a Mistborn while she massages his neck.  Maybe a little joke that she's sad that she can't take care of him anymore now that he's all big and powerful.  She notices the tension in his neck and worries about him but thinks he's become a much stronger person in the last 2 years....etc... you can see how easy it is to work into the narrative while still adding important bits of information about the characters' state of mind, what they think about their new abilities, etc...

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« Reply #11 on: February 01, 2009, 10:11:01 PM »
I did like how they were together in the second book and having problems.  Often in fiction two people get together and blamo, that's it everytings perfect.  In my experiance most of the problems happen after people get together, and so it was nice to see that.

I do agree that the third book was kind of lacking in the dynamics of their relationship though.  Granted there was a lot of serious stuff going down at the time, but still.

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« Reply #12 on: February 01, 2009, 11:01:08 PM »
I would've liked to have seen more conflict in their relationship.  It was there, I just think that it wasn't explored enough.  Basically there was two Cinderella stories here, you had the street urchin who fell in love with the prince, and you had the book worm who fell in love with the super hero.

I think it would have added depth to their relationship to see more push/pull.  Considering Vin's roots, the fact that she was abandoned, didn't feel comfortable in dresses or make-up, and seeing Elend surrounded by noble women who were comfortable in their skin, I would have liked to have read more, " I really like him/he'd never be happy with me" kind of doubt.  As far as Elend goes, Men in general want to be the bread winner, the knight in shining armor, the protector of their family, so it had to have been hard to have his girlfriend rescue him all the time.  Then with her hanging around mistings and mistborn had to have had him feeling somewhat emasculated.

Now the book touched base on a lot of this stuff, and some people have written that it was there we just weren't in their heads.  That's what I think was missing in their relationship.  I think that if we could've read more about that part of their relationship then the Zane sequence would have been more compelling to me.  Also in Hero of Ages when Vin said she had nothing else to live for after Elend died and then she sacrificed herself, that part surprised me.  That statement is a statement of deep love that I didn't feel was there.  I think that reading more of their doubts, insecurities and watching the relationship grow would've also made the ending that much more emotional.

On a side note I think that one of Sanderson's strengths is his ability to develop side characters.  As much as I enjoyed reading about Vin/Elend, I thought they kept getting overshadowed by other characters.  In the first book it was Kelsier, who was the first fantasy character I read who was an adult, optimistic, had a plan for everything, he became my favorite character in the fantasy genre.  In WoA, it was Zane he was just really mysterious. who was he, was he good or bad, was he insane or not, what does he really want with Vin.  I was disappointed in how abruptly he got killed off.  In HoA it was Spook.  I almost found him more interesting that Kelsier.  In all those three characters were mysterious oddities that I enjoyed reading.
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« Reply #13 on: February 04, 2009, 04:35:32 AM »
Maybe that's what I found off putting with the second book, the chase was over so to speak. They had each other but they still had some road blocks but it just didn't feel the same way it did when they first saw each other in that first ball scene. I mean it felt like something was missing and I just wasn't sure what it was.

Kelsier to me wasn't a side character, he was Vin's Old Wise man, her Dumbledore, Merlin and Gandalf.
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« Reply #14 on: April 01, 2009, 03:45:46 PM »
What I missed in Warbreaker was a foundation showing something of the relationships in the family and community in Idris.  It's hard to take Vivenna seriously at first, because Siri is the focus for so much of the book.  It's really hard to sympathize with her desire to prove her self and to save her sister because we don't really get the chance to see her as the responsible sib.

It would be nice to have more foundation for that, to see a bit more development of the plot in the city.  Maybe a few failed attempts to infiltrate the staff of the gods.

If we could spend  as much time working with Warbreaker to earn her his respect and for Vivenna to become a fully fledged Awakener (pea-cock), as we did on the mercenaries. This would round the novel out to about 300K words and let us understand Vivenna rather than Siri as the Heroin.
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