I don't feel that the government or whiny authors should step in to decide for them what they will and will not distribute.
Agreed, but that has no bearing on the definition of censorship, only on the response to censorship, which thus far I have carefully avoided discussing.
...making censorship hinge on what's going on in the guilty party's head (which is inherently unknowable for the rest of us) rather than their actual impact on the availability of the book allows every crappy writer to scream censorship when his book is rejected by the publishers.
Yes it does, and it should. I would rather live in a world where crappy writers can rant about censorship than a world where good writers are oppressed by it. Not that you're suggesting anything different, and I know you're not; I'm just saying.
Or the man with no money outside the movie theater to scream censorship over the theatre's unwillingness to give him a ticket.
I did not mean to suggest that capitalism is a form of censorship, though it's an intriguing argument.
Larry Miller choosing not to show Brokeback Mountain is not impinging on anyone's free will. He is only exercising his own. He may have made it harder to see the movie since he happens to run quite a few movie theaters, but if anyone chose to make their own arrangements to see the film, exercising their free will on the matter, he'd have nothing to say and nothing he could do about it.
That doesn't mean it's not censorship, it just means it's not effective censorship. I can go through my children's bookshelf and black out all the words I don't like, and that would be censorship; the fact that they can just read a non-censored book somewhere else does not change the fact that I have censored a book.
In the end, Skar, I think this comes down to a disagreement in terms and scale. I happen to believe that censorship happens constantly, in many forms, some of them more acceptable than others. You apparently believe that censorship exists only in a pure Orwellian sense--an all-or-nothing kind of censorship that is either totalitarian or not really censorship at all. That's fine, as long as we acknowledge that we're talking about two different definitions of the same thing. I will say this, however: my kind of censorship scares me a hell of a lot more than yours does, because it creeps up on us by degrees and we are, in large part, complicit in our own oppression. By the time we've reached your definition of censorship it's pretty much too late, because we already live in a totalitarian state. By definition of censorship is happening right now, and will eventually lead to that worst-case scenario, which is why it's important to recognize it for what it is and do something about it.
That makes me sound a lot more like a reactionary lunatic that I wanted it to, but there you go. Fight the power.