Waiting is frustrating

[Peter Ahlstrom]

Ugh. I don't even have the energy to rant.

I wish the wedding could be February 19th to take advantage of the 3-day weekend...but looks like that's not going to be possible (and no, the whys of this are not up for discussion).

Those of you out there who are married, I assume the majority had to wait some time before a planned date. How did you keep yourself from going insane?

[Brenna]

During our six-month engagement, I took 18 credit hours (mostly hard ones, though I did have a few dance classes too), dealt with the death of my future mother-in-law (a month before the wedding), graduated with a BA (a week before the wedding), made lots of wedding plans (including helping my mom make my wedding dress three days before the wedding), and worked part-time.

Hmm....maybe I shouldn't be the one to give advice on how to avoid going insane before the wedding date...since it appears that I already *was* insane!  

In all seriousness--it's hard, but just think about how worth it everything is! That helped me, anyways. I mean, what's a little waiting when you get an eternal companion out of the deal?

[fuzzyoctopus]

Well....... if you remember we actually got married mid-semester, because waiting until April or May was too long.

The time went really fast actually from January to March - it was the year and a half when we were on opposite sides of the country that was slow torture.

Ha ha, I just asked J.T. this question and he said "Lived in different states." And there was school and cake-choosing, and invitations, and receptions and really by that point we were still just estatic to get to SEE each other every day.  And the week BEFORE the wedding, he went out of town (to the GDC).

Sooo, I guess my advice is to focus on how happy you are to have found the right person and to be getting married.

[Mad Dr Jeffe]

I waited untill my wife had a nervous breakdown and relapse into drinking (A week before the wedding) thanks to the stress of planning and the involvement of our parents. Then later after going to counseling and waiting to see if she could stay sober we just decided to elope.

Eloping was much, much, much better.

[House of Mustard]

We just had a really short engagement.  From the time we met till the time we got married was about four months.

Hi!  I'm from Utah!

[Oseleon]

Eloping was much, much, much better.

Yeah, thanks for telling your best man,  inconsiderati!.


We did a 14 month engagement and planned/paid for a decent sized (120 guest) wedding ourselves.  It was easy to get over the waiting because it seemed there was always SOMETHING ELSE to do and not enough time to do it!  

We also took secret Dance lessons so that we could wow all the guests at our first dance, rather than look like the notorious non-dancer I have the reputation for...  

Course, got married Catholic so we HAD to have a minimum 6mo engagement while we did all the steps required.

***And also, I promise to never swear again.
***Though I modded the mod so it kept the original flavor  (Flagelates self for not minding terms)

[fuzzyoctopus]

We just had a really short engagement.  From the time we met till the time we got married was about four months.

Hi!  I'm from Utah!

I would just like to say that I harbored a deep and burning hatred for people like you all throughout my engagement.  

I'm mostly over it now, though.  Um, and my mom really liked On Second Thought.

[House of Mustard]

Fell was pretty close to the same as me -- from meeting to marraige was five months (I think -- it might be six...)  Dr. Laura probably hates us both, but that's fine -- I don't like her either.

And I'm glad she liked On Second Thought...  (your mom, not Dr. Laura).

[stacer]

The friend I've been in town for, who got married last Thursday, knew her now-husband seven weeks before they got engaged, and their engagement was about a month and a half. So they met mid-September, and are now married--what's that, 3 1/2 months?

Not my style. Long courtship, short engagement, I say. Though not too long.

[Mad Dr Jeffe]

Yeah, thanks for telling your best man,  you silly head.

Yeah well, we were at the courthouse anyway getting the marriage certificate, and the JP was right next door. It was much easier that way. Of course I should have told someone about it before we got to VA beach... but you know the honeymoon seemed more important.

[Lieutenant Kije]

My wife and I got married 20 years after we met.  And it wasn't frustrating waiting all that time because I was clueless for most of it.

[The Holy Saint, Grand High Poobah, Master of Monkeys, Ehlers]

I can trump most of you on the frustrating wait.

My wife dumped me at least 3 times in the 6 months between engagement and marriage.

It may not be the longest, but it was pretty close to the crappiest (Jeffe may have me beat on that).

[Mad Dr Jeffe]

The only crappy thing was the alcoholism.

[fuzzyoctopus]

I can trump most of you on the frustrating wait.

My wife dumped me at least 3 times in the 6 months between engagement and marriage.

It may not be the longest, but it was pretty close to the crappiest (Jeffe may have me beat on that).

Yeah, that sucks a lot.  Why did she keep changing her mind?

[Mistress of Darkness]

We just had a really short engagement.  From the time we met till the time we got married was about four months.

Hi!  I'm from Utah!

I love to say that Steve and I dated for a month before we were engaged. It was just weird to me because we said we were going to take it slow . . . and didn't. Which I understand is not really all that unusual.

As for surviving. . . . I think I did go crazy. What with miscommunication between parents, stressing out about arrangements and money, it was a little nuts. But it was really nice to have that letter from the temple that they sent after our date was scheduled, because that's the important part. That 15 min ceremony is all that needs to happen.