Here's my own little challenge lately. I think I'm getting better at handling it, but sometimes I can get a little obsessive over particular things, especially the really positive and the really negative. For example, on the positive side, I had a date this last weekend. Fun, and a little unusual for my life. Nice. He's a nice guy, and we have a good time together. We're good friends as well.
So now I find myself fighting the urge to think way too much about this subject. And now at church activities, I wonder how I'm supposed to act, and tend to go for the opposite of showing too much interest, and then almost ignoring him as I try to mingle. Or I end up trying to start conversations with him, and even though we've been friends for months, my mind goes blank and either nothing or nonsense comes out.
It seems to me that if I just stopped thinking about it, things might flow more naturally. And then again, maybe he's feeling as awkward as I am, and so I'm not the only one with the problem of trying to talk.
I do much better with changing my thoughts and redirecting myself when I have negative obsessive thoughts (how am I going to handle my finances, how am I going to get such and such assignment done, etc)--I've learned that I have to redirect my energy, focus on what I can do, let go of what I can't control, etc. But it's much harder when it's something interesting, like this.
Any thoughts?
