Ok this post was edited becuse I realized that some people may have misunderstood what I meant.I can't offer stability or security (at least financially? what else would you mean?), and I don't know what you mean by connection.
As far as stability and security I also meant a safe and comfortable home environment. A girl has to know you wont hurt them or demean them when youve had a bad day. They need to know that you arent negative, and can be supportive even when life is crappy. . Not that you do any of these things, and I really want to emphasise that I dont think you do.
But one of the purposes of dating is to get an idea about what a person is like for good or for bad.
So yeah you can offer stability and security, and I bet with some dedication you could even handle finances.
Financial security is not something to snear at. If you think datings expensive, try hospital visits, diapers, food for two (or more) every day not to mention assumed debt. I stopped dating a girl when I realized her school debt was over 18,000 dollars and she wasn't doing anything to pay them back and not saving any money at all. Of course this person had been out of school for almost 6 years and repeatedly squandered money on things she didnt need and couldnt afford. Things got really bad when she crashed her truck, and went thorugh a whole saga to get alternate transportation that ended up putting her in a larger amount of debt with a vehicle that could barely roll. She was chronically late to work and got fired from two jobs she needed badly.
Mainly what ticked me off was that she refused to take 1 test to get a 15 dollar an hour raise which would have handled her payments for her loan and stabilized her debt. Even after she borrowed two hundred dollars from me to do it. She used that money to buy craft stuff for herself.
That says a lot about a person, and while I many not be wealthy in my life, Im sure as heck not going to be in debt.
Like we said though dating doesn't have to be expensive. There are free concerts, parks, shows, fairs and other things you could do to have a great time. My wife and I worked at a volunteer theater company painting sets as a date plenty of times.
I bet there are poetry readings, amateur open- mic nights and comedy shows too. Try to Cook at home instead of eating out. Save cash for a once a month big date, and dont buy a lot of gifts nic-nacks and brikabracks. Have friends over and watch a movie or have a small party.
Almost forgot as far as the word connection go's I mean sex appeal. ...not by itself because its more of a combination of sex appeal, comfort and a good rapport. Women have to be attracted to you and have to feel they can be themselves around you. Above all they have to have fun with you. And thats on top of the intelletual stimulation and spiritiual bond you have.