There is a line. They have most likely taught their daughter that she should be honest. They are obviously not being so. Therefore, it is not out of line for her to tell them that they are being dishonest. Especially if they are being self righteous about their integrity.
I never said that being dishonest is okay, and being a hypocrite is okay. But it is horrendously important to remember that we only have part of one side of the story. He didn't even go into details of conversations, ect., so we don't really have any basis to logically assume tehy are being dishonest. Plus at least half of the problem lies with the girl's parents, which means Outkast probably doesn't even have the whole story. Nobody on this forum has the right or the ability to judge the parents for breaking their promises, because nobody on this forum has all of the information necissary.
For all we know, things could have just come up, which happens and shouldn't be counted as the parents lying.
This being said I am not, nor have I, said that the parents going back on their promises is okay;however, there is not a lot anybody can do about that. And being indignant is not going to solve anything.
I do not think that this is insubordination. I meant this to be done respectfully, to show the parents the position that they are imposing on the son and daughter.
No matter how you mean an offensive or rude statement, it is still going to come across as offensive or rude. Telling the parents to go spend months apart is something that is more likely to get you in trouble than it is to solve the problem, whether or not you had good intentions. I'm sure the parents understand the position the kids are in, it's just not the top of their priorities. There are more important things to an adult with a buisness and obligations than cart their kid cross-country to see a kid that they are dating, especially when the parents probably don't see the relationship as serious. And why should they? The girl is fourteen, she has no idea what she wants, she's hardly ready to be married, I'm sure, and she has other things that should be a priority, such as school and whatnot. A child dating is not, nor should it be, the top of their priorities.
Define significant. Many teens have killed themselves over rejection in relationships that were only "high school relationships." That is very significant. Some teens get married when they are teens, and it ends up being a great marriage. It is still a high school relationship, but it is also very significant. Don't discard the idea that high school relationships can be significant.
I advise you to Entropy's previous statement. And I add this. People are stupid. Just because they killed themselves over it doesn't mean it was really that significant. The OUTCOME of the relationship was significant because they are stupid, but the relationship itself probably wasn't that important. Given there are the occasional high school relationships that become more and are worhtwhile. But those are so rare that it should hardly be the PARENTS' job to go out of their way to give their kids a day or two of face time.
Oh, and by the way, I am under the impression that Outkast is closer to 16 than he is 14, I might be wrong. We'll have to wait until his silly part of the world gets online.
Some of us may believe in not dating young, but their parents obviously don't have this rule. They allowed the two to become involved. This considered, I find it generally insensitive to now ignore his feelings.
Just because the parents allowed their kids to become involved doesn't make it their responsibility to make sure the kids can see eachother. Their choice to let their kids date does not make it their problem if the kids do date. I hardly think it is insensitive of the parents to be indifferent about a relationship the two of them chose to get into and chose to maintain long-distance. It happens.
And I have a personal question I'd like to ask: Why do you need to be face to face with her? In the least, the girl is far too young to be doing anything physical, period. If the parents openly allowed that I'd be very suprised. And you are obviously communicating regularily, and that's what should really matter. If you two are truly interested in eachother, what one another has to say should be the most important thing of all. Especially concidering the fact that anything physical is highly inappropriate. Can you really justify putting a terrible burden on your parents for a little face time?
And I don't recall seeing anything about you going out to see her, maybe I just missed that part. If you haven't tried it, maybe you should, if this is that important to you.