When is it Over?

[fuzzyoctopus]

Bwahaha.  Yes, sometimes it apparently does.  Â But I think Ookla was the exception rather than the rule.

[stacer]

I'm with Fuzzy on that one. Movin' on, movin' on.

[The Holy Saint, Grand High Poobah, Master of Monkeys, Ehlers]

actually, my wife broke up with me no less than three times over the years.

[Piaggio]

See?  I knew you fellows would be interesting to talk to.

Oy.  I've got to get in bed.

[PorterMcD]

Sometimes a couple years after you know it's over, it starts again.  

...and always when you're not looking for it, when you least expect it. that's how i met my wife.

[stacer]

That's what everyone says, when you're not looking for it. But please, there are plenty of times when you're not looking for it and it doesn't happen, too.

[Tage]

Yeah, if I may be slightly bitter for a second, I have alternately looked and not looked for years now, and still have nothing to show for it. At this point I doubt effort has anything to do with it.

[Gemm: Rock & Roll Star; Born to Rock]

Well, thank you for belittling my efforts and non-efforts to nothing less than a mere uselessness.

[Chimera]

Yeah, if I may be slightly bitter for a second, I have alternately looked and not looked for years now, and still have nothing to show for it.

Oh, I wouldn't say that, Tage. You do have a bike now. And a very nice mountain bike it is.  

[The Jade Knight]

I dated a girl for 3 years once, too.  She was in another guy's bed a week after she finally dumped me (and was dating him behind my back for a while before that).  Problem is, I didn't even know it was over until after that.  (I'm loyal to a fault, unfortunately)

My current girlfriend and I have been dating eachother for just over a year now.  I think she's dumped me a few times during that period, but never for long.  We've had some nasty fights, too, but things right now are looking as good as they ever have, and we're both just thrilled to be together (though I'm still working on convincing her to confront her parents and marry me even if they might not approve).  Honestly, I consider her a much better catch than the girl I dated for 3 years.  You never know.  Losing your girl might just be a blessing.  It was for me.

[Piaggio]

Maybe so, but when you are down and the crocodile's twisting on one ankle while she takes a hammer to the other knee and says "we can still be friends," it doesn't feel that way.

[stacer]

Sometimes "we can be friends" just shouldn't be employed. Sometimes a clean break is better, or at least a long break after which you truly can come back as friends, with both hearts healed. It's definitely possible to be friends again, and you at least have to attempt it if you're in a situation where you can't avoid each other and/or have close-knit mutual friends who neither one should have to give up. Forgiveness is key in such circumstances, and that has to be given time.

[Peter Ahlstrom]

Tage, I am fully convinced that it takes divine intervention. With me that didn't happen until both of us were at a point where we were happy and satisfied in our own lives, and then the divine intervention came in. Of course there must be many happy and satisfied (except for the no one to share it with thing) single people out there...ymmv.

[fuzzyoctopus]

Ymmv....?  Your milage may vary??

Weird abbreviations aside, I'll throw my vote with divine intervention.

[Master Gopher]

No vote for divine intervention.
It's kinda hard for me - some people think there *is* such a thing as the One, soulmates, etc... whereas I don't ... yet I'd still date/marry those people if there was an obvious strong connection. I can see it possibly causing me future conflict... I should just keep my mouth shut, methinks