But I also can't really change my routine. I'm locked in.
Don't give in to defeatistism. (That would be
my unprofessional, opinionated opinion) This is one of the worst things you can let yourself fall into, and I say that because I've watched my best friend do it to herself for the past 4 years or so. "I can't change this until I find some better doctors or better meds to help my condition." And so she remains unemployed, living in her parents house.
The commute sucks, I will agree, and it leaves so little time to play, but I think Kristi is right. You need to take some time for yourself, to do something you want to do. Maybe you'll enjoy it, maybe you won't, but at least you took sometime off from the daily grind. I know I get really emotionally tired after months of denial, of not buying any of the 20 things on my wishlist, because we don't have the money, or not doing something for me because I don't have the time--there are all these
things I need to get done.
It sounds like this is what you are suffering from. Too much self-denial. I guess all I can say is that it's important enough that you should try find a way to do something that you want to do.
I can offer a game of StarCraft (my current favorite thing to do with my husband--I know it's really old, but I still can't play SC well, why should I try to learn WCIII?), an online rp session over IM (I find this to be very cathartic, especially when our rp group can't get together, something about running through all of the emotions of my character in a short period of time--we could rp out something between Smiddy and Koree that we wouldn't have time for in the board game), or just a chat (and you can kick me in the butt so I actually
write some reviews). Just some ideas.
Stacer, here's my suggestion. If you are focusing on something so much that it's causing problems, focus on something else. Realize that he's probably feeling the same way, so look for ways that you can make him feel more comfortable, rather than for ways you can "act normal". I think reading scriptures with Steve helped us when we were dating. But maybe that's too much, so find something
simple that you can do together, so you can practice interacting with him at this different level of your relationship.
The thing that helped me the most was talking about how we (Steve and I) saw the relationship, where we saw it going, etc. I know it's bold, but it sounds like you are both good enough friends to be frank with each other. And I
know you're not the kind of person to go all freaky about it. Just keep it casual. You are showing him that you care by trying to understand where he is coming from. At least that's the theory, maybe the boys have a different perspective, but if your unable to act normally around him because you are unsure of where the relationship is, and where it is going, then asking is probably the best option.
Again, just my unprofessional, opinionated opinion.